In a world brimming with expectations and unsolicited opinions, I’ve come to embrace a simple truth: I’m a great mom, even though I don’t cook for my family. And I refuse to be shamed for it.
Society often paints the ideal mom as someone who spends hours in the kitchen, whipping up home-cooked meals daily. While that’s wonderful for those who enjoy it—and I’ve certainly done my share of cooking in my younger years—it’s not the only way to show love and care. My choice not to cook doesn’t diminish my worth as a mother.
Sure, I’d love to be that mom who cooks and bakes, but instead of spending time in the kitchen, I invest my energy in other meaningful activities. I help with homework, engage in creative projects, hit the gym to take care of my health, and ensure we have quality family time. We play new games, read bedtime stories, and share our day’s highs and lows. These moments of connection and support are what truly matter.
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Choosing to have a cook prepare meals allows me to focus on what’s important: being present and emotionally available for my family. It’s a decision that works for us—okay, mostly for me!—and it keeps our household running smoothly. Plus, it teaches my kids that there are many ways to care for oneself and others and that flexibility and adaptability are valuable life skills.
I refuse to let anyone’s judgment make me feel inadequate. Every mom has her strengths, and mine shine outside the kitchen. My family is happy, healthy, and thriving, and that’s what counts.
So, to all the moms out there who don’t cook—stand tall and proud. You’re doing an amazing job. Let’s break free from outdated stereotypes and celebrate the diverse, beautiful ways we each care for our families.
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Go Mommy!